If I had a daughter I would put her on birth control after she has her period for about a year and/or is 14 or 15. Radical? Maybe. I love the idea of establishing use of birth control as a normal and important part of her health care.
I DO NOT want to shame her but also want to dialogue about privacy and having special time alone in bathroom or her room.
Good news! The closer the relationship to your daughter, the more likely she is to wait for sex!
Girls are awesome, brilliant, funny, and inspiring. They are also frustrating, stubborn, messy, and sometimes scary. They will, just like all of us, get into situations that are overwhelming and not know whom to turn to for help. They will get into conflicts with one another. They will experience people refusing to tell them why they’re mad, and they’ll do it, too. They will feel frustrated and confused when someone dismisses them with “Just kidding!” or “Why are you overreacting?!”
I believe it’s fine to discuss anything related to reproduction, puberty and waiting for sex with kids of mixed ages. This helps to normalize the conversation in your family.