Girls are awesome, brilliant, funny, and inspiring. They are also frustrating, stubborn, messy, and sometimes scary. They will, just like all of us, get into situations that are overwhelming and not know whom to turn to for help. They will get into conflicts with one another. They will experience people refusing to tell them why they’re mad, and they’ll do it, too. They will feel frustrated and confused when someone dismisses them with “Just kidding!” or “Why are you overreacting?!”
I believe it’s fine to discuss anything related to reproduction, puberty and waiting for sex with kids of mixed ages. This helps to normalize the conversation in your family.
Due to his refusal to make sure his daughter was safe, even after she talked to him about this, she broke up with him. His unwillingness to even follow up with his child was a total and understandable deal breaker.
Trust your child to know their gender even if it doesn’t conform to the gender they were assigned at birth and may not make sense to you. Gender is not about what genitals a person has but who they know themselves to be in their heart.
For years I have recommended parents provide their teen boys (the bonafide straight ones, of course) with copies of nudie mags as an alternative to Internet porn. As a certified feminist, my BA is in Women Studies, this advice has understandably given me pause. I don’t like the sexualization of women. Not one bit. […]