I DO NOT want to shame her but also want to dialogue about privacy and having special time alone in bathroom or her room.
Emphasize that it is up to them to stick to their limits and tell them to be aware of how far things are going once their hormones are enjoying a make out session.
Imagine how you would feel if you found out that you were adopted when you were 10 or 12. It would be shocking, confusing and probably piss you off.
He then asked me why it happens. and I froze. What should I have said?
Explain that a “deal breaker” is something—a behavior, comment, or value—your teen absolutely cannot tolerate and violates his or her trust in someone.