Resist the urge to think, “NOT my kid!” and instead please think, “MAYBE my kid!” as you read.
If you had spent this evening at my home, what happened…erm, I mean ‘would have’ happened is that the room goes silent except for the faint tones of “Baby, it’s cold outside” playing in the background. Then everyone would turn and look at me expectantly.
At its core, sexuality is something that is private, and constantly getting messages about what “should” be important makes it confusing to try to figure out what truly matters to your teen in a relationship.
It is a nearly impossible and ridiculous idea to expect human beings to mate for life. We are just not wired that way. If we were our divorce/breakup rate would be nominal; people would nearly always have crazy and totally satisfying sex lives with their one partner; and the only person we’d be turned on by would be our life-long mate.