Throw in a little chit-chat about “safe and unsafe” touch as part of this conversation. And the sooner you cover this, the better.
Early Childhood (Birth to 8)
Privates, the areas covered by your bathing suit, are private! They are a sensitive area of your body for you only. Please let me know if someone wants to touch or look at your [penis or vulva] or if you touch or look at anyone else’s.
Just like your eyes, nose and mouth, the penis, scrotum, vulva, vagina and anus are sensitive areas of the body. It’s important no one, other than you, touch them because you could get hurt.
No adult or older kid should look at or touch your privates. Even if you know and like them, like your coach, cousin, teacher, babysitter, or neighbor, it’s never okay for them to touch you in this way.
If you are having a problem, then mommy or daddy or the doctor may need to look at your privates. We’ll always ask first and will be with you if the doctor needs to look.
It’s okay for you touch your own privates when you are alone.
Tweens (9 to 12)
Sometimes kids get curious about each other’s bodies. Your privates are private and you have the right to say “no” if someone wants to look at or touch them. It’s also not okay for you to touch at or look at anyone else’s penis, scrotum, anus, vulva or vagina.
Please let me know if this happens to you, you won’t be in trouble and I will help you and the person who touched you in this way, if needed. Even if the person tells you bad things will happen if you tell, they are lying. You can always tell me if something like this happens.