Who doesn’t love an orgasm? Orgasms explain why we are so interested in sex – the end-run “goal” of sex is to get off, right?
Orgasm can be tricky to explain in some ways because it’s a personal experience. There are physiological things that happen for both sexes, but I’m going to skip the technical stuff and provide a basic explanation.
Don’t feel obligated to explain orgasms to your preschooler, but you might want to tackle this with your 7 or 8 year old.
You might want to tag a conversation about masturbation onto this conversation with your tween.
Early Childhood (birth to eight) + Tween (nine to twelve)
When people have sex one thing that happens is something called an “orgasm” or “coming.” This is a very strong, good, warm, tingly feeling in your penis or vulva, kind of like a sneeze.
When a guy has an orgasm it feels really good, warm and tingly and usually semen with sperm in it comes out of his penis. This is called “ejaculation.”
When a girl or woman has an orgasm it feels really good, warm and tingly, too. Sometimes a little liquid will come out of her urethra when she has an orgasm. This isn’t pee and is totally normal.
This good feeling is part of why people like to have sex. You can have an orgasm with someone else, or by yourself. Since kids don’t have sex, they usually have orgasms by themselves and this is called masturbation.
What do you think? Does this do the trick? I’m open to influence…