How do you know if childhood sexual behavior is abusive? Hey Amy! I am a counselor of a 26-year-old man who just disclosed that he and his sister (2 years younger) did sexual “stuff” together from age 6-11. The sister is feeling victimized. I don’t have a lot of details or specifics. Do you know folks who work with adults around this issue? Do you have recommendations about how to move forward with the client? I am feeling lost partly because I don’t have details and because they were both so young and close in age. I would love to hear your perspective. Nancy the Therapist Sexual behavior between kids isn’t automatically sexual abuse! Howdy […]
A really quick way to assess whether a behavior is typical for a kid is to ask yourself, “Is this something adults or teens would do?” If the answer is no, then it’s most likely a common kid behavior.
Kissing games can be a big part of elementary school play. These games are developmentally appropriate, but as with any game that involves some sexual experimentation, adults need to intervene and so kids can learn boundaries. How to talk about kissing games with kids I’ve provided some scripts for talking to kids about these kind […]
Do you remember “playing doctor” as a kid? I sure do. I was six and playing with my neighbor, Derek who was my age. He had one of those tablecloth play houses – remember those? It was a plastic cloth that had windows, a door and the sides went down to the ground. I don’t know […]
Throw in a little chit-chat about “safe and unsafe” touch as part of this conversation. And the sooner you cover this, the better. Early Childhood (Birth to 8) Privates, the areas covered by your bathing suit, are private! They are a sensitive area of your body for you only. Please let me know if someone […]