What To Say To Stop It Hi Amy! I just listened to your expert series via Amy McReady’s website. I have two boys who are 8 and 10. Occasionally, I hear them say, “Let’s lay on top of each other (fully clothed).” I am worried they are rubbing their privates on each other. What do […]
Teacher Needs Guidance on First Graders Playing Chase and Kissing Games–A Lot! Hi Amy! I teach first grade at a local private school in Seattle. I have been in education almost 20 years, but only in first grade for three. For the first time ever, I have a class that is very interested in the […]
How do you know if childhood sexual behavior is abusive? Hey Amy! I am a counselor of a 26-year-old man who just disclosed that he and his sister (2 years younger) did sexual “stuff” together from age 6-11. The sister is feeling victimized. I don’t have a lot of details or specifics. Do you know folks who work with adults around this issue? Do you have recommendations about how to move forward with the client? I am feeling lost partly because I don’t have details and because they were both so young and close in age. I would love to hear your perspective. Nancy the Therapist Sexual behavior between kids isn’t automatically sexual abuse! Howdy […]
A really quick way to assess whether a behavior is typical for a kid is to ask yourself, “Is this something adults or teens would do?” If the answer is no, then it’s most likely a common kid behavior.
Kissing games can be a big part of elementary school play. These games are developmentally appropriate, but as with any game that involves some sexual experimentation, adults need to intervene and so kids can learn boundaries. How to talk about kissing games with kids I’ve provided some scripts for talking to kids about these kind […]