I help grown-ups be their kids’ go-to birds and bees resource, so they become whole and healthy adults!
Hi! I’m Amy Lang (she/her) and… I love to talk about sex!
And I’ve been talking about it since… drum roll please… 1991.
A long damn time.
Sexual health education and counseling were my passion for over 16 years, and after we had our baby in 2000, I assumed I’d be a total pro at the birds and bees talks.
The minute I thought my kiddo was going to ask me a question about their penis I totally freaked-out.
Freaked. Out.
(And I know all about penises and how they work and where they go, even – I bet you have a pretty good idea too!)
When it came time to talk to my child about sex, I was totally unprepared for the conversations.
- I didn’t know how much to tell him.
- I didn’t know what to tell him.
- I didn’t know when to tell him or even how to tell him.
Sound familiar?
So, I figured it all out for my family and my kid, and then I put those years of sexual health education, my newfound knowledge, and my Master’s degree in adult education to work and created Birds & Bees & Kids – BirdAandBeesAndKids.com – in 2006.
After I started my company, our wonderful childcare provider was wrongly accused of molesting a child. This event inspired me to teach folks who work directly with children about childhood sexual development and sexual abuse prevention. You can learn more about my classes for professionals here.
A few more things about me
I grew up in the small town of Ashland, Oregon, and landed in Seattle, where I’ve spent my entire grown-up life (except for one wild, year-long adventure in Mexico when Milo was one—memoir coming someday).
I’m also…
- Committed to teaching what works—and always learning more
- Certified in Neurodivergence, Disability, and Sexuality (Mercy College)
- Parent of a delightful, fully launched human
- Happily married to the same lovely person for 30+ years
- LGBTQ+ affirming and inclusion-minded
- Open-minded and welcoming of all perspectives
- Neurotypical
- Quirky (in the best ways)
- Genuinely fun to work with (or so I’m told)
Chances are, you didn’t have a trustworthy adult who made sure you were as ready as you could be for this fundamental and critical part of life.
With my help, you can become that person for your kid.
Can you imagine how amazing it would be for them?
Why I help parents of neurodivergent kids talk about sex
In 2023, more and more parents started asking me the same thing:
“How do I communicate with my neurodivergent child about sex, consent, and relationships?”
When I went looking for helpful resources to send them, I was shocked by how little was out there—nothing current, comprehensive, or practical.
And definitely nothing made with neurodivergent kids or their parents in mind.
Because these families needed support (and I love a good challenge), I earned a certification in Neurodiversity and Sexuality from Mercy College and developed a new set of resources just for parents.
I created research-based, neuro-inclusive tools that help parents:
- Communicate clearly and confidently about sex, bodies, boundaries, and consent
- Understand what’s typical vs. concerning sexual behavior
- Prepare their kids for puberty, relationships, and sexual decision-making
- Respond in supportive, non-shaming ways when tricky topics come up
- Build ongoing conversations that actually work for their child
As I dug deeper, I realized there’s also a major gap in sexual abuse prevention for neurodivergent kids. Their behavior is often misunderstood—sometimes even seen as predatory—when it’s really about lagging social skills, curiosity, or communication differences.
My work helps parents and caregivers protect and support neurodivergent kids by giving them the language, support, and education they deserve.
I am also sex positive. This means I see sexuality as a wonderful and important part of life, and I wholeheartedly embrace all sexual identities, genders, family structures, and ethical relationship styles.
Sexuality is a charged topic with multiple perspectives and beliefs. I make every effort to make sure folks feel seen, heard, and comfortable as they learn.
My mission is to help every child become a whole, healthy, and happy adult!
And, I bet you want this for your child, too. Together we can make it happen!
P.S. You can also hear me talk about parenting, neurodivergence, and sex education on these podcasts:
