Simple and clear is the way to go!
Hello!
I don’t like to use the word “consent” with kids because I think it’s a high-level concept and requires some thinking (especially for little kids) to figure out what it means.
It’s like the word inappropriate. If you ask a kid what this means they will probably say something like “it’s not okay” or “it’s bad.”
It’s not clear (to them) and it decreases the impact of what you are trying to tell them if they have to translate it in their heads. Plus it’s a mouthful for you. Just say “not okay” instead.
Same with consent. If you ask them what it means they will probably say something like “agree” or “to say yes.” Simple and clear, right?
Why not use words they already know to help them understand something they will have to deal with throughout their lives?
I’m not saying don’t use the word consent – you need to use it for sure. Just use it along with the word agree.
You can say, “You need to ask first before you kiss or hug your friend. They need to agree [ to say yes] or consent before you do this.”
Do you see how much more clear this is? And simple?
OK! Get out there and practice! It makes progress, you know.
BOOKS FOR KIDS
- C is for Consent
- I Can Play It Safe
- Consent for Kids
