…Thinking “Not MY Kid.”
That’s it. Pretty simple, eh?
Decide, right now, that they will eventually:
- Ignore you/your family rules/sage advice
- Ignore their intuition
- Follow the herd
- Have sex
- Drink booze
- Try pot
- Try other legal and illegal drugs
- Drive over the speed limit
- Text while driving
- Talk on the phone while driving
- Do all three of the above at the same time
- Sneak out
- Sneak back in
- Dye their hair purple, then red, then pink, then black, then bleach it blond
- Lie to you
- Hate you at some point
- Have a boyfriend
- Have a girlfriend
- Have both
- Have neither
- Watch pornography
- Watch porn and say they didn’t
- Explore with some other kid sexually
- “Accidentally” find/do/say/hide/any number of things/people/thoughts
- Send a sext
- Receive a sext
- Forward a sext
- Smoke cigarettes
- Find you horrifically embarrassing
- Prefer their friends to you
- Go to a party and lie about it
- Do everything you did when you were a kid. E.V.E.R.Y.T.H.I.N.G
- Do everything you would have done, if were you a kid growing up right now
Assume they need you to fill them up with information, tips, strategies, values, “What would you do if…” scenarios.
Assume they will make mistakes. Assume they will screw up.
Assume they will need you to be fully present, thoughtful, helpful, kind and right there when they do.
And STOP THAT! Repeat after me: “Yes, my kid! Yes, my kid! Yes, my kid!”
Good luck.
