Sex talks can be easy and effective! Just use my magic formula: Facts + Values + Limits.
Fact = What it is.
Value = What you believe about it.
Limits = When it’s okay to do/use/talk about, etc
Here’s what it looks like in action.
Boy: Mom, what’s a blow job?
Mom: Excellent question!
[FACT} A blow job is slang for oral sex on a guy. Oral sex is when one person puts their mouth on another person’s penis or vulva.
[VALUE] It’s part of a committed sexual relationship, and not something done casually or in exchange for something else. It’s not something you EVER have to do.
[LIMIT] I believe oral sex isn’t something kids do because sex isn’t for kids.
Or, if you are doing what you are supposed to be doing and consistently starting sex talks, it looks like this:
Mom: Hey, boy-child, what do you know about tampons?
Boy: Gross, mom. Something with periods…?
Mom: Right! A tampon fits inside a girl or woman’s body and it captures the blood from her period.
I believe tampons are one of the top five inventions of the 20th century.
Not everyone who has a period uses them and it’s a personal decision about how someone handles their period.
See how easy this is? This strategy is one of the simplest ways to get a sex talk started.
And lucky you, I just gave you two scripts you can put to work!
