Everyone has a story about the first time they had sex. Your kids may ask you about when you lost your virginity. They may not.
When you talk with them about this, you have a choice about how much you tell them, and whether you talk about it at all. Please don’t lie to them. They have great BS detectors and you will completely discredit yourself if you lie and get caught.
I’m going to give a couple of scripts for fielding this question, but it’s ultimately up to you to figure out how you will respond to this question.
Early Childhood
The first time someone has sex is sometimes called “losing your virginity.” A virgin is person who has never had sex.
I think it’s smart to wait until ____________ before you have sex for the first time. I believe this because…
Tween
I had sex for the first time when I was a teenager. When I look back and think about the choices I made, I feel good. I was ready and with someone I loved and trusted. We made sure we wouldn’t get pregnant or an infection and talked a lot about our decision.
When I look back at the choices I made, my hope for you is that you will wait until you are out of high school, in a loving committed relationship, have protection and are really ready for sex and can handle all the consequences.
I had sex when I was too young and completely unprepared for the consequences. What I hope for you is…
When do you think a person should have sex for the first time? When do you think someone is ready for sex?
