How are you supposed to talk to kids about Safe Adults? Here are some scripts!
Beginner
Sometimes kids need people they can talk to about stuff besides their parents. Your safe adults are . . . (me, your other parent, Grandma, an aunt, an uncle, etc.)
If you’re sad or scared or have a problem, you can talk to these people and they will help you.
Intermediate
Let’s think up a list of three people we love and trust and who would help you if you needed it. These are your “safe adults.” You can tell them if you’re worried about something, need help or have a problem.
Safe adults don’t ask you to keep secrets, so if an adult asks you to keep something secret, you need to tell me or another adult immediately. You won’t get in trouble, and I’ll make sure the adult gets help if they need it.
Advanced
Let’s review your list of safe adults and make sure they’re good choices for you, now that you’re older. They need to be people you’re really comfortable with and will go to if you’re worried about something, need help or have a problem.
Remember, safe adults don’t ask you to keep secrets, so if an adult asks you to keep something secret, you need to tell me or another adult immediately. You won’t get in trouble, and I’ll make sure the adult gets help if they need it.
I won’t be mad or upset if you talk to one of your safe adults before you talk to me or your other parent about a problem you’re having. I totally understand that it can be easier to talk to someone other than me to help you figure out what to do. What matters is that you ask people we both trust for help.
The rule with your safe adults is that they will tell me what’s going on with you if your problem is something that’s dangerous to your health or safety. They will never come to me behind your back—you’ll know they’re going to talk to me.
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