Do you know how to talk to your kids about Sexual Abuse? Read on for some scripts!
Beginner
Sometimes adults and even other kids will try to touch kids in their private areas to make themselves feel good. These are tricky people who will try to get kids to do things that are against our family rules. The adults who do this know it’s wrong, and sometimes the kids do, too, but not always.
It’s not okay and it’s not safe to play this way, because kids can get hurt. Private parts are very sensitive. Just like you wouldn’t want someone to stick their finger in your eye, you don’t want them to touch your privates.
Please tell me or another safe adult if someone tries to touch you this way. You won’t be in trouble, and we’ll find help for the person who tries to touch you like this.
Has this ever happened to you?*
Intermediate
If someone ever touches your private parts, it’s important to know that it isn’t your fault. It’s never the kids’ fault, and if you tell someone, they’ll make sure the person who touched you gets help because touching a kid’s private parts is a type of abuse. It’s sad and a little scary to think about, but sometimes adults don’t believe kids when they tell them this kind of thing. So, if the first person you tell doesn’t believe you, keep telling safe adults until someone does.
This can be uncomfortable to talk about, but it’s important to talk about it. I want you to be safe and need to know if something like this happens to you or to one of your friends. You can always talk to one of your safe adults first to help you figure out what to do next.
And if anyone ever tells you that you can’t tell an adult something, this means you need to tell an adult. You will know to tell because the person’s secret will make you feel bad, scared or alone.
Has this ever happened to you?*
Advanced
Sometimes adults and even other kids will try to touch kids in their private areas to make themselves feel good in a sexual way. These are tricky people who will try to get kids to do things that are against family rules. When they do that, it’s called sexual abuse and the adults who do this know it’s wrong, but other kids don’t always know its wrong, especially if their parents don’t help them understand these things.
If a situation with another person feels uncomfortable, wrong or even just a tiny bit strange to you, please tell me. It’s better to follow up on those feelings than to ignore them. You might get an “uh-oh!” feeling in your belly. Pay attention to this when it happens. It’s your intuition telling you something isn’t right.
Sometimes a person might flatter you, give you special presents or money and ask you to keep these things secret. Usually the person is an older kid or an adult. If this happens, please let me know. It isn’t okay for someone to give you things and then tell you that you can’t tell me. We don’t keep secrets in our family.
Has this ever happened to you?* You don’t ever need to be afraid to tell me something like this.
*I know, I know, you don’t want to ask this question. But you must. It’s better for your child if you know sooner rather than later if they’ve been molested. Sorry. Not sorry.
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