Teenage Son Masturbating Video and She’s Scarred for Life!
Hi Amy!
What do you do if you find a deleted video of a kid jacking off in the bathroom, by himself, on the toilet. THE WHOLE THING FROM START TO FINISH?
And sadly, it’s your own??!?
Yup. This just happened. I got him a new phone since his was toast. I hadn’t looked thru his phone for a while and after it all downloaded I was looking thru photos and videos. And there was one in the deleted folder. I thought, “that looks weird” then pushed play and GREAT…with total shock, I figured out it was my teenage son masturbating. I recognized his bathroom floor. OMG.
Good news! He’s totally normal. And I could care less what he’s doing in the bathroom, although I suspected as much because the shower runs for a ridiculously long time. Bad news he took a video of it. That may be totally normal to want to see a picture of it or whatever. But shit. I don’t want to say anything because I don’t want to freak him out. Masturbation is TOTALLY NORMAL and that’s great, yadda yadda.
But a video of it? Really? I’m concerned it wound up on SnapChat or was sent to someone or whatever, for fuck’s sake if that’s happened, I’ll honestly kill him. Because I don’t know how many times we’ve been thru the dangers of social media.
So, how am I supposed to bring up my teenage son’s masturbation video without completely freaking him out that his mother has seen him jack off on video? I don’t ever want to say a thing because I don’t want him to grow up with some crazy mother complex that fucks him up for life. But if that video went anywhere, he’s screwed. We’re screwed. Like really badly screwed.
Suggestions please, NOW?? Fucking phones. Technology. OMG. Seriously?
Kellee Mama of a Wanker
Teachable Moment About Masturbation and Pornography for Her Teenage Boy
Howdy Kellee!
Oh lord. You poor thing. Too bad you can’t un-see things. I am so sorry technology has advanced to the point that mama’s can see videos of their teenage sons masturbating. Fuckity, fuck, fuck, fuck.
Chances are high, he was probably just fooling around. And as teen boys do not have full brain function and their “if I … then … will happen” thinking doesn’t really work, you get homemade videos like this! Yay! Not.
Say this…
You need to say to him something like this and DO NOT say you know it was him:
I feel TOTALLY UNCOMFORTABLE telling you this, but I saw a vid on your phone of someone jerking off.
You probably don’t know this but, this is considered child pornography and it’s illegal to have it on your phone, share it and to take a video of a teen masturbating.
Most kids don’t know this.
So, GET THAT SHIT OFF YOUR PHONE AND ANY OTHER NUDE, sexual or sexy image RIGHT NOW.
You can get in serious trouble if this sort of thing gets out. Most kids do not know this. Now you do.
I will be checking your phone in 24 hours – so get it cleaned up. And make sure it is all DELETED – not hanging out in trash.
I will be adding Qustodio to your phone (and all the other devices he goes on line with) to help you remember to keep it clean. And it will help you “exercise your muscle” of self-restraint!
Got it? I love you to pieces and it is totally normal to be interest in sexual stuff, as you know. But this is not okay or safe.
Monitor
And now back to you –
Qustodio will ride along in the background of his phone/devices and you can see every time he downloads an app, accesses websites and other stuff.
Because of his age, you don’t need to block terms unless he’s getting into some serious porn and other issues. Just set it up to monitor.
And show him this wonderful video about porn.
And fuck. So. Sorry. Parenting is not for wimps.
You’ve got this!
Amy
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