Separating younger kids from older kids for the sex talk
Sometimes parents wonder about talking about sex with siblings who are different ages. My general rule is this: if the kids are three full years apart, most of the conversations should be separate. Seven-year-olds don’t need the same depth and breadth of information ten-year-olds do. I believe it’s fine to discuss anything related to reproduction, puberty and waiting for sex with kids of mixed ages. This helps to normalize the conversation in your family.
I would also agree on a secret phrase to use if your older child asks a question or brings up a topic that is not okay to discuss in front of their younger sibling. It can be something like, “Hey! Let’s talk about that over a cup of tea!” This tells your child you’ve heard them and will talk to them, just not at that moment. Kids love having secret codes with their parents, it makes them feel important.
Go ahead and talk to your girls and boys at the same time
When it comes to talking to girls and boys together, it’s fine to have conversations with them at the same time. You know your child’s temperament, so use this as a guide. Some kids will never tolerate a sex talk with their opposite sex siblings. Some kids will love it. You will end up having more one-on-one conversations as your kids age, but don’t hesitate to tackle some sex talks when your kids are together. It’s easier on you. 😉
